This is a very important question from a woman who is dating a guy who wants to be a pickup artist teacher aka a dating coach for men. I have communicated with Evan Marc Katz after reading his first book, I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Common Sense Guide to Internet Dating. He is sharp, very witty and is the most congruent mainstream dating coach I have come across. His advice for both men and women is solid although after his 2nd book, Why You’re Still Single, his slant has turned more to advice for women.

You will notice a link in this blog post about him meeting Neil Strauss a while ago. I place that link below this reader question.

Here’s the question:

Hello Evan,

I’ve been exclusively dating a nice guy for almost eight months now. We’ve had good times together and he is always there for me when I need him. The thing is, before he met me, he was very promiscuous. (I don’t have a lot of dating experience.) He’s very into how men attract women and how they market themselves on the dating scene. When we watch movies with a relationship plotline, he takes care to tell me what the man is doing right/wrong. He wishes to have a motivational speaking career or a relationship counseling career when he graduates

What bothers me is that he wants to teach guys how to attract women. The worst thing is that he says he wants to practice picking up women and getting numbers in order to be able to teach them. He says he’s not going to use the numbers or anything but he wants to practice so he can teach others and so he gains credibility as an attraction expert. He asked me if that was OK with me. I’m not stupid, and this bothers me a lot. He’s told me that he’s not going to do it since it bothers me, but this is the 3rd time he’s asked this question. He told me not to tell my friends that he asked the question, because they would probably think it was weird. I want to know how or IF I can get him to curb his flirtatious ways.  I’ve explained to him how important it is to me but he doesn’t seem to get it. I want our relationship to work. Is he just not a one-woman man?

Read Evan’s full response on his blog…

When Evan Katz met Neil Strauss he wrote one of the most unbiased reports about the book, The Game, I have come across since this controversial book was published a few years ago. For the record I now permanently have en “open relationship” as per my Facebook profile because I do not want to lead on any woman who meets me. It’s take or leave it with me.

So what do you guys who are in relationships tell your woman?