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Story of Bluebeard

Posted by on January 9, 2011 No comments

Blue BeardThis was originally told by Dr Paul Dobransky in his interview with David DeAngelo for his monthly Double Your Dating interview series…

Bluebeard was a wealthy aristocrat, feared because of his “frightfully ugly” blue beard. He had been married three times, but no one knew what had become of his wives. He was therefore avoided by the local girls. When Bluebeard visited one of his neighbours and asked to marry one of her daughters, they were terrified, and each tried to pass him on to the other. Eventually he persuaded the younger daughter to marry him, and after the ceremony she went to live with him in his château. Very shortly after, however, Bluebeard announced that he had to leave the country for a while; he gave over all the keys of the chateau to his new wife, including the key to one small room that she was forbidden to enter. He then went away and left the house in her hands. Almost immediately she was overcome with the desire to see what the forbidden room held, and finally her visiting sister convinced her to satisfy her curiosity and open the room. However, the wife immediately discovered the room’s horrible secret: Its floor reeked of blood, and the dead bodies of her husband’s former wives hung on the walls. Horrified, she locked the door, but blood had come onto the key which would not wash off. Bluebeard returned unexpectedly and immediately knew what his wife had done. In a blind rage he threatened to behead her on the spot, and so she locked herself in the highest tower with her sister. While Bluebeard, sword in hand, tried to break down the door, the sisters waited for their two brothers to arrive. At the last moment, as Bluebeard was about to deliver the fatal blow, the brothers broke into the castle, and as he attempted to flee, they killed him. He left no heirs but his wife, who inherited all his great fortune. She used part of it for a dowry to marry her sister to the one that loved her, another part for her brothers’ captains commissions, and the rest to marry a worthy gentleman who made her forget her ill treatment by Bluebeard.

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Dealing with Flaking

Posted by on July 16, 2010 No comments

David DeAngelo had a excellent strategy to deal with flakes before you waste your time. I’ve had a model flake on me three times and now I realised I forgot my own friggen advice ;-)

So here’s the routine to sort the flakers from the rest:

Assume you got a number close during day game or night game. When you call the women to set-up the date start with a general comment about something that’s happening in Joburg, South Africa or where ever you may find yourself e.g. a new movie or some new album or whatever. Just make something up. The secret to rapport is to go first, a principal you find in hypnosis. So you have to tell her a story before you ask her something. This is also a basic form of leading from NLP.

So now you’re ready to set-up the “date” and you tell her something like this: “Hey I’m kind a busy today and tomorrow. Lets get together for a cup ‘o tea and some stimulating conversation on Saturday.”

Assuming she says yes, you move forward with “Ok, that’s great. So let me ask you this quickly…On a scale from 1-10 what’s the chances you’re going to flake and not show up?”

If she says anything else besides “No, I’m going to flake” you tell her “look we’re both busy so I’ll rather not meet up with you. Have fun, cheers!”

This is what you do when you want to ensure she makes a real commitment. Another thing you can do, which I learned from the master of bisexual relationships Rick H, is to set-up multiple dates like 3 or 4 at a time. That way you’re bound to have find with the group dynamics.

It may be worth reading this blog post I wrote a while ago about inviting out a woman you’ve just met.

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The Rules aka MO of David X

Posted by on January 11, 2010 5 comments

David X is a seduction guru or dating coach from Montreal, Canada. He first came into wide prominence because he was featured on the David DeAngelo Mastery Series and later recorded another in Double Your Dating Interviews with Dating Gurus. Anyway I have been greatly influenced by his attitude alone. And now that I have extended an invitation for him to join me in South Africa, it’s simply a matter of time before you can also meet and interact with him.

David X Rules To Live By

1 – Don’t care what she’s thinking! That doesn’t mean don’t try to understand women in general, it means don’t care what a specific chick is thinking at any specific time. Just don’t care. If you do, you’ll be thinking for 2 people while she may very well be thinking for nobody. Just let it go. What you may be thinking about what’s on her mind is ONLY what you think is going on, most likely totally wrong anyway. Stop thinking what she’s thinking and stop thinking FOR her. You’ll end up with less worries, have twice the brainpower available for yourself, and will come across as more direct and powerful.

2. Don’t forget rule #1

3. Follow through. That means, if you say you’re going to do something, do it. If you get her worked up over something you are going to do with or to her, follow through. If you don’t follow through, women will hate you for it.

4. Have control. Keep control. You either have control or you don’t. And if you have control, you can either keep it or not. So when you have control, keep it.

5. Make rules and stick to them. These are YOUR rules. Things like “I don’t tolerate no-shows.” or “I’ll say something ONCE – I do not repeat myself.” Don’t be afraid to tell chicks your rules as long as you know you won’t break those rules in front of them. Most guys don’t have any rules so you will, at minimum, set yourself apart. ( note: this means you may need to think what your rules actually are )

6. Don’t break your own rules, ever. Once you break one of your own rules in front of a chick, you will begin lose control of your situation with that chick.

7. Have a structure and stick to it, no matter what. Be consistent. This also relates to having a set of rules and sticking to it.

8. When part of your structure doesn’t work consistently, analyze that part, figure out why it doesn’t work, and repair just that part. Don’t replace your whole structure just because one aspect of it doesn’t work right. Fix just that part and keep improving your structure over time.

9. Be aggressive and direct when initially approaching chicks. Don’t beat around the bush. Chicks don’t have a clue why you’re there – tell them. Just don’t be crude about it.

10. Don’t lie, but you don’t have to give them the whole truth, either. Never lie to a chick – it’s not worth it. The truth is always better and it’s easier to remember. “The best lie is the truth.”

11. Be decisive and lead. Chicks need to be lead. They don’t want an indecisive pussy. Don’t say, “I don’t know… what time is good for you?” Say “I’ll be there at 6 O’clock. Meet me then.” Don’t be afraid to be a little late. They hate it when you’re early and hate you even more when you’re right on time. Make them wait a bit. They will respect you. If they disrespect your time, drop them.

source: Fast Seduction

Masters these Five Areas in your Life

Posted by on January 23, 2007 No comments

Master these Five Areas and You will Achieve Overall Success in Your Life:

  1. Language: become an expert speaking your language. If you don’t you make a bad impression on people who area really sharp. In the key moments, it matters.

  2. Communication: language is a type of communication, but its bigger then that. In life you have to work with other people, and that requires communication. Learn body language, persuasion, influence.

  3. Sales: when you become good at sales, you learn it not sales techniques. Its about understanding where the other person is at and getting them what they need. The best sales people ask really good questions, qualify prospects quickly, build trust very fast, and offer the prospect what they need. Bad sales people don’t do that, they sell features and benefits and get lots of objections.

  4. Marketing: marketing and sales is similar and different. It allows you to take sales and replicate it. Specifically direct response marketing

  5. Public Speaking: take a public speaking course, or join toastmasters. Social rejection triggers the same part of the brain, the same part that physical pain is connected to. Poked in the eye gives same displeasure as being socially rejected. In front of a group is rejection times 100 or 1000.

This is some solid advice from the David DeAngelo Mastery program.