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How a dating coach helps your love life

Love Life South African Dating CoachLove should come naturally, right? We should not have to rely on experts to give us dating tips, be more attractive or make better dating decisions. Isn’t that what our girlfriends are for? Unfortunately, most of the dating advice you get from others is incorrect or, worse, damaging to your love life.

During my early twenties (my pre-awakening years), I was dating someone I really liked. My best friend was seeing his best friend and it was great. Unfortunately, my friend’s guy was being a little flaky and she was mad at him. During that time, my love interest cancelled plans with me because of a conflict. My girlfriend told me to stand up for myself and lay it all on the line. So, I called him back and said that I was not going to put up with him cancelling at the last minute and I guess I should look for someone else to date if he wasn’t going to commit. This was totally out of character for me and it felt awkward. Guess what? He never called me again.

Of course, after years of transformation I would not even consider doing something like that again. I always wondered if I had a dating coach I would have avoided many of these silly foibles. I would have found my way much sooner instead of spending the next twenty years filled with hurtful love relationships.
How many times have you taken advice from your best friend and it turned into a debacle? Or, have you read one of those advice books written from a man’s point of view only to have it blow up in your face? If you need help with your relationships, the best person to turn to is a Love or Dating Coach.

A good Love Coach doesn’t give advice on how to react in certain situations because she knows that every person and situation is unique. A love coach does not teach you how to love others, but helps you love yourself. If you want love in your life and it isn’t showing up, there is something within you that is blocking it. A Love Coach can help you discover the blind-spots that are preventing you from attracting true love.

Some people ask if they can do the work on their own and I believe that they can. The benefit of hiring a coach is that you get results at a faster rate because you are not stuck navigating within the muck of your own false thinking. A Love Coach can be your guide to ask questions that will laser any situation and have you see it more clearly and make more empowered decisions in your dating life. The most important element when choosing a coach is having a great rapport with her or him and they allow you to find your own answers.

In my practice, I use the technique of hypnosis which is simply a guided visualization process with the acceleration of hypnotic suggestions. This isn’t about dancing in your happy place with butterflies, but discovering the deep, subconscious blocks that keep you from having everything you want in life – including a happy relationship. The best thing about using hypnosis with your coaching program is that you don’t need to invest a lot of money.

Most clients need just 3-6 sessions before their inner mind is shifted and they are experiencing a new level of confidence in dating and finding the one. With what could take months with a regular coach, a woman can see her love life start to shift immediately after the first session. I have had some clients meet their true love within weeks after using hypnosis.

I believe anyone who wants love can have it in their life and that they are the only one stopping the natural flow of love toward them. Since the subconscious mind is not logical, this can be difficult to analyze on your own. A Love Coach can shine the light on the mystery and reveal the person you were meant to be in relationships.

The truth about hypnosis and love coaching is that it is fun, it is easy and it works. I know that the use of hypnosis is the main reason why I transformed from a disastrous dater to a confident woman with a great love in her life.

Source: Examiner.com / Debra Berndt, a Certified Hypnotic Love Coach, Radio Show Host, Speaker and author of Let Love In

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Mind shift that must take place before progress is realised

The mind shift starts with realising it’s possible to approach women anywhere, any time and that you do not have to wait for random chance, fate or luck to help you meet women. The second shift takes place when you realise you can structure conversations to have the desired outcome you have ? again without proceeding with blind faith. The third mind shift is that you see enough results that you begin to internalise the positive belief systems that starts improving your life overall.

After taking a lot of time off from coaching I’m back. So please feel free to contact one our coaches in Johannesburg, Cape Town or Port Elizabeth if you need some help to get your dating life in shape. I’ve worked with both males and females, although I prefer working with men.

We only recommend these South African Dating Coaches

Warren Buffet investor richest man on earth Bill Gates friend mastermindToday I decided to remove some dating coaches listed on my dating advice blog. The other two that remain are people I have worked with, and I’ve seen them in action, and we have had our ups and downs and worked through it. Essentially the two removed turned out to have their own issues and hang-ups they could not yet overcome. And therefore I cannot vouch for their integrity with coaching clients. Warren Buffet has 3 criteria for buying a company when reviewing the current owners:

  1. He has to know them (meet in-person)
  2. He has to like them (have some things in common)
  3. He has to trust them (honesty, integrity, track record)

Without these 3 points above it’s really difficult to establish and conduct long term relationships with men or women, friends or sexual partners.

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My results are guaranteed and if you are not happy I offer a 90 day money back guarantee. References from male or female clients available on request to protect their privacy.

After years of checking and rechecking my own calibration I now see through all most bullshit. So always look for congruence and consistency with anyone you are seeking advice from whether it’s regarding romantic relationships or business coaching.

Finally it’s more important that you’re faithful rather than being successful.

The art and science of a dating coach

Evan Marc Katz dating coachLove mentors in demand among rich, educated groups

By Karin Zeitvogel

Americans invented the personal trainer to get physically fit and the career coach to give them a leg-up on the professional ladder.

But once they had hauled their size zero bodies and rippling abs to the very top of the career tree, and paused to allow their fancy to turn to thoughts of love, they realised they were out on a limb.

Enter the dating coach.

Unlike a traditional matchmaker, a dating coach will not arrange a tryst for you, but is “a personal trainer for people who want to fall in love,” one of the pioneers of the genre, Evan Katz, said.

“You have to do the work, you have to lift the weights, but I will guide you to make sure you don’t hurt yourself,” said Katz, who has been coaching people to successful love lives for five years.

His client pool is unlikely to dry up any time soon because, according to Katz, there are tens of millions of single people out there.

The people who employ the services of a dating coach tend to be educated, hard-working and relatively high up on the socio-economic ladder, not least because fees for the service are relatively high and not reimbursed by health insurance, coach Jennifer Viemont said.

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SMARTdate teams up with Dating Coach at Sexpo 2007

In a country just opening up to the culture of the dating scene it?s hard when you?re newly single to know what to do or where to go. SMARTdate owner Jenny Cereseto will present a number of workshops, with Ramon Thomas, a well known dating coach over the course of the controversial exhibition, Sexpo with intent to educate single people about the dating game.

“As an exhibitor I want to make the dating concept something people understand and remove any hesitation they may have had in the past,” says Jenny Cereseto, owner of SMARTdate. “Most of my clients find speed dating helps expand their social life and in that way meet new people for dating and relationships. Speed dating is a great way of improving confidence, developing social skills and finding a partner.”

Sexpo began in Australia, where the biggest public exhibition is held. Joburg’s version is expected to draw up to 30 000 visitors. The expo, being held from September 27 to 30th at Gallagher Estate, will host 100 exhibitors offering books, toys, gadgets, health, fashion, dating and lingerie.

“Most people today are overwhelmed by choice. Internet dating and cellphones make things easier and more difficult at the same time,” says Ramon Thomas, South Africa’s #1 Dating Coach. “My mission is to show people how to convey what they have to offer and meet better quality people.”

Some of what men will learn at the Sexpo:
- how to overcome social programming
- attraction vs romance vs love
- advanced body language
- eliciting women’s values
- setting up short, medium and long term relationships

An interesting dichotomy emerges in the dating industry with all online dating and SMS dating companies are run by men with majority of users being men. The opposite holds true for most speed dating and dinner dating companies. They are run by women and attract more women than men to their events. ?Men hide behind their computer or cellphone screens instead of going out and meeting woman,? says Thomas. ? I’m determined to show them how to do it.?

There are currently over 40 dating service providers operating in South Africa. This number excludes most SMS services who come and go and old fashioned social clubs, who advertise mostly in local classifieds. Most dating companies do not offer any advice to their clients. While the worldwide trends are that they partner with dating gurus or life coaches.

Thomas confirms the biggest problem in the dating industry is that there is no regulation. Users of online, speed or SMS dating services have no independent body to report any complaints to for investigation. And Thomas has become the unofficial industry ombudsman.

MEDIA CONTACTS

Ramon Thomas, Dating Coach
Cell. 081 4399 555

Jenny Cereseto, owner SMARTdate
Cell. 072 464-4253

Anecdotes from my coaching clients and their dating experiences

Here is some anecdotes on problems my coaching clients, who are very successful otherwise, have had when it comes to women:

One guy about 35 was a very good dancer which already sets him apart from most other guys. His problem was he just could not overcome his approach anxiety so he always ended up dancing with women he already knew. I showed him how easy it is to approach women he did not know, initiate a conversation and later on dance with them. Another client of mine is a much older guy who was divorced when I met him. After 20 odd years of marriage he just had no clue how to go about socialising with single people. So we create a social life for him from scratch. First by getting better clothing, second by identifying the best places to meet the kind of women he wanted to meet. And thirdly how to structure conversations using what’s called patters on threads to create deep rapport. He is a very successful guy and has a lot of life experience but his main problem was not being able to convey his best attributes without coming across as bragging.

If you are interested in improving your social success and your dating and relationships with the opposite sex please checkout my coaching program here.

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Brent Smith on Who Are You Talking To?

I’ve just signed up for a monthly podcast with American Dating Coach Brent Smith. Brent Smith was first interviewed on the David DeAngelo Advanced Series. And after a while he launched his own website over at Absolute Power Dating which allows you to subscribe to his short and powerfully direct ideas on retaining your power in dating and relationships with women. Brent has some of the best advice I’ve ever found. And it’s all about being a natural, being social and open to new experiences. On his MySpace profile you can access archives of his newsletter re-posted as blogs.

So here’s a short video clip of him followed by some great advice about not limiting your conversation to talking to women but also talking to men.

If you’re limiting your interactions to women only, you’re missing the boat. Whether you need
a new wingman or just want to look social, talking to men is essential. Some of the greatest
contacts I’ve made and the greatest experiences I’ve had are due to speaking to other men.I truly believe that you’re only one interaction away from everything you want. The problem is that you don’t know which interaction it will be. I proved this theory most recently when I was
waiting for a client at the bar. An older gentleman came up to order a drink and the conversation went like this:

Me: How’s everything?

Him: Everything’s great. You?

Me: I’m awesome. Just waiting for a friend. Where are you from?

Him: Boston. You?

Me: Here. What’s on the agenda tonight?

Him: I’m going to the Maxim Magazine party with a bunch of models and celebrities…would you like to join us?

Welcome to my life. I have hundreds of stories like the above and it’s one of the reasons that
my life is like an adventure every day. I never know what’s going to happen.

Want to know how to do this on MySpace or Facebook?

Subject: How’s Everything?

Body: Hey (name), I know it’s a little weird getting an email from another guy, but I’m seeking
male friends who share my passion for women. As you can see from my page, I’m building a great social life. Maybe we’ll hang out sometime, talk to women, have a few laughs and drinks. Give me a shout back if you’re interested.

Cheers,

John

P.s. If you’re not great with women, that’s cool too. I can help point you in the right direction.

Try it and let me know what happens!

Connect with Brent Smith through his Myspace Profile here.

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