So here we go. In South Africa there seems to be more and more interracial couples. Since these couples are forming part of the pop culture on television soaps opera’s they can be seen as more acceptable than ever before. There are various combinations of interracial dating e.g. white man, black woman; white man, Indian woman; white man, Chinese woman; black man, white woman; black man, coloured woman; Indian man, Chinese woman, etc. My own observations does concur the findings of Ray Fisman, i.e. women have stronger preference for men from their own race, while men have little to no preference for the race of the woman they date. I do think this criteria become even more sensitive and conservative when men and women consider marriage.
I have had relationships with Black, Coloured, Indian and White women. Only the Chinese girls have eluded me so far 
And I have found subtle differences here and there. Overall it was better for the same reasons or worse for the same reasons. Where possible I avoid meeting family these days to avoid giving these women the wrong idea and creating any unfounded expectations. The social conditioning has made it easier for me to meet and mingle with certain groups less so that other groups. However, I have found with my mixed racial heritage I can adjust and blend pretty easily into most groups. And I always keep them guessing.
From the article, An economist solves the mysteries of dating, to find out the conclusion about interracial dating are as follows:
“Another clear gender divide, this one less expected, emerged in our findings on racial preferences, reported in a forthcoming article in the Review of Economic Studies. Women of all the races we studied revealed a strong preference for men of their own race: White women were more likely to choose white men; black women preferred black men; East Asian women preferred East Asian men; Hispanic women preferred Hispanic men. But men don’t seem to discriminate based on race when it comes to dating. A woman’s race had no effect on the men’s choices.
Two wrinkles on this: We found no evidence of the stereotype of a white male preference for East Asian women. However, we also found that East Asian women did not discriminate against white men (only against black and Hispanic men). As a result, the white man-Asian woman pairing was the most common form of interracial dating?but because of the women’s neutrality, not the men’s pronounced preference. We also found that regional differences mattered. Daters of both sexes from south of the Mason-Dixon Line revealed much stronger same-race preferences than Northern daters.”
People seem to be extremely sensitive for being classified as racists but when they completely dating profiles, it’s really is their own private right to choose to exclude or include those from other races. My own experience on DatingBuzz, the largest online dating network in South Africa, has been that by far the majority of white women opt for non-negotiable on their criteria for their ideal match. And I can prove that when I meet these same women in a social setting all those hidden or unconscious psychological prejudices disappear.
Here’s another interesting article you can explore from CNN: Could Mr Right be white? And I’d love to hear your story about an interracial relationship or fling from the past, or better yet questions about how to approach someone from another race. This blog will focus more on interracial dating advice in 2008.
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As most people know South Africa started to emerged out of decades of Apartheid brainwashing that the white race is superior to others in early 1990s. And so when I was at university between 1993-1995 I started noticing more and more interracial couples hanging out around town. It was almost like it was the in thing where white girls were seen with coloured or black guys – not so much the other way around. Since 2000 its certainly all more common place to see many variations of mixed couples in South Africa and indeed worldwide.
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