Sex on the Bus

Posted by on September 27, 2011 No comments

A Question from a reader:

My car broke down and i had to take the bus. So i was vibing this chick sitting next to me, and keeping eye contact seriously, then at some point she decided to hold eye contact like for five minutes. wow it was tough but i kept it, didnt break the eye contact, after she broke it, later i started looking straight in her eyes then slowly checking her cleavage. She noticed this and i saw her fidget. But we continued the conversation just fluff stuff. Suddenly she started checking out my Lips. unfortunately we were in the bus.

My question is, How does one become sexual. what things does one have to do to show that they are sexual. and not just cofort rapport

Here’s my response:

You were already sexual. Look you can follow mystery method and figure out where in his 9 stages you are or you can start to physically escalate when you see her responding like this. It all depends on your situation you can call her towards you with your finger or eyes, and then you can start to touch her sexually. That’s even more evocative than kissing in a public place.

On buying drinks in bars

Posted by on September 14, 2011 No comments

This was posted on a discussion forum I moderate by a friend. And it makes a very good point when it comes to the initial approach or openers with attractive women in a bar or club. Hollywood films like Crazy, Stupid, Love give the impression that this is an effective opener with a woman you don’t know from a bar of soap. Anyway decide for yourself if you will continue to buy women drinks before you get to know them.

I posted this in a Facebook discussion titled “dear desperate girls” aimed at getting desperate girls to stop putting up FB pics of their boobs… I didn’t care about the discussion but for anyone even newer to this than me this may be useful.

Dear desperate guys!

Please stop buying girls drinks (unless they’re your mates, or they bought the first round). For one your treating them like hookers.. So you bought three cocktails and now she’s gonna take you into a dark corner and make your dreams come true??

She ain’t that thick or that easy. You are. For two its patronising to assume she’s short of cash. For three every other yob that can’t string a sentence
together has been doing the same thing 10 times a night since she turned 18. Fourth you’re often buying drinks for me :) And lastly because you can tell a lot about a woman who’ll buy U a drink when she’s just met you at the bar.

Self-sufficient and not a leach, a freethinker… work the rest out yourselves. So turn it around and stop behaving like a bunch of wussys, you’ll have much more fun, stop wasting money, and meet much more interesting women that r way more worthy of your time.

The original post was by a model friend of mine, she is 25 and spens half the year in Milan. I’m 38 and the way we met? She bought me a drink at the bar :)

Hello world!

Posted by on September 3, 2011 No comments

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Being Nice Is Not Enough

Posted by on September 2, 2011 No comments

Zan Perrion Ars AmorataMen are confused about the “flakiness” of women. We were charming and kind and nice, were we not? Why did it start so strong with her and then attenuate into nothingness?

Here is how it usually goes. A guy meets a girl who likes him and she agrees to go on a date with him. So he meets her somewhere typical, say at a nice wine bar for a glass of wine. Date number one. And the whole time, he is trying be interesting and charming… he is telling stories and telling jokes, and it is working reasonably well. Remember, she likes him… she came on a date with him. So she likes the date and it was fun.

He is kind and charming, the epitome of chivalry. He opens the door for her, etc. And at the end of the date, he is not sure what else he is supposed to do, so they thank each other for the great evening, and he asks her if she would like to get together again. And remember, she likes him, so she says yes. Date number two.

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Dating advice for Singles over 30

Posted by on August 18, 2011 No comments

People over 30 often complain they struggle with dating. The reason for this is they often find many of their friends are married or in long term relationships. So they feel like they cannot relate to them. They also make excuses about the importance of their career and how many commitments they have. All of this is pure poppycock because can either be single or social. It’s a mindset.

The following story sent to me illustrates what can be done…

There is a guy who is now 36 and in a relationship, but when I first met him he was 33. He is very successful and a good looking guy, but kept on screwing things up with every woman he met. He had been in Cape Town for years and moved to Joburg to work. He came here and made friends very easily and women were interested in him until he showed interest, which turned out to be oozing with desperation and neediness. Every women would be over him in about two weeks. Quite frankly, he scared the hell out of them. He ticked all the boxes except for the one where he would become scarily desperate.

I managed to convince him into pacing himself when he met a new women and not to fixate on one women, but to rather date a few at the same time in an effort to establish which one would be best for the long-term relationship he was so desperate for. It worked so well and now he is with a really cool woman that he would never have gotten with his previous approach to women. They have now moved in together and are very happy.

Digital’s 7 Golden Rules of Club Game

Posted by on July 14, 2011 No comments

Rule 1 #: Game early.

A common mistake is guys get to the club and chat with their mates, checkout the talent and after a few drinks they only then feel they are ready to game, but then it’s too late because every other guy in the club is also now at that level and feeling brave to approach
girls. So your competition and cock blocking just increases the longer you wait. You have an advantage knowing how the game works, compared to every other guy, so don’t wait around. Get to the club early and start making random chit chat with sets while you drink. Approach as many girls as you can early on, you’ll notice you’ll have minimal competition and all the other guys will just be watching you wishing they had the balls to do the same. Keep the interactions short and sweet with sets in the early evening, and leave them on a high energy vibe. This will make you more memorable, so when you re-approach later, you’re all set up and ready to escalate with them because they’ll remember you and you’ve built some familiarity with them. Don’t wait to close girls 1 or 2 hours from club closing either, your chances just decrease dramatically.

Rule 2 #: Have rules when with a wingman

When out with a wingman, set up rules for certain situations. Like he
who approaches gets first choice. I’ve been in a situation when my
wingman and I are gaming the same girl, and that’s not where you want
to be because most likely neither of you are getting anything for her.
When you approach sets with a wing, its highly unlikely that you’re
going to hook up with your target, and your wing is also going to hook
up with your targets friend .. so remember the sole purpose of your
wingman is to distract your targets friend so you can isolate your
target, so take her away from her friend as soon as possible. Also
sometimes the situation arises when things are going well with your
target, but now your wingman is on his own, so he might hang around
the two of you, creating a third-wheel situation, in this case he
needs to follow the rule to leave you two alone. She is most likely
going to close up on you if she now has two guys she just met hanging
around her, so your wingman needs to keep away while you push towards
a close. Your wingman needs to understand that at times you might be
apart for extended periods in the night and not take it personally,
but ultimately you would probably be better off going out solo and
avoid all of these types of situations. But for early evening, and
having a base camp in between sets, having a wingman is useful.

Rule 3 #: Don’t be results focused.

Before you get to the club, don’t be in the mind set that you need to
fuck someone tonight. You’re setting yourself up for failure if you
don’t meet that expectation. Go out with the mind set to have fun.
You’ll notice your best nights, when you met someone awesome was
probably not a night when you were expecting something to happen, you
just went out to have fun and went with the flow. Don’t be results
focused when approaching either, like saying “ok I’m going to approach
that girl and number close her” Just go out and approach and have fun,
sometimes pickup is a slow process which runs over the course of the
evening so there is no rush to close. Go with the flow and enjoy
yourself and see where the night takes you.

Rule 4 #: Always seem uninterested

If you watch other guys in the club with no game and see how they
watch women, you’ll notice how they’ll be constantly checking out
girls in “predator mode”. Girls have a sixth sense at sensing
desperation in men that do this and see this as threatening and
unattractive. Sometimes you’ll see a guy stare at a girl for a while,
and after he has plucked up enough courage he’ll approach and she’ll
immediately be uninterested in him and close up – because she has
already noticed him checking her out and he is on her predator radar.
Instead go hang out at the bar, talk to your mates, look at girls
briefly but don’t stare – don’t make it obvious that you’re checking
them out. Subtle eye contact is key here. And then when you do
approach seem friendly but uninterested in her. Make her think you’re
not on the prowl, just being sociable and this make you seem more
mysterious. She’ll be wondering the whole time, “ok he’s talking to
me, but he’s not hitting on me… but why not?” Make her chase you!

Rule 5 #: Never buy girls drinks

I use to do this all the time, but mainly with shots.. but it rarely
gets you anything. Sure it might create entertainment value but you’re
setting yourself up to just be used. Try the opposite tactic, when you
get to the bar with some girls you just met, ask them if they are
buying you drinks… surprisingly this works sometimes. If they
decline you could say that they should buy the first round and you’ll
buy the next round – this sets things up for later if they leave you
because they’ll come to find you to get their round you owe them.
Otherwise just pay for your own drinks – and just say something like
well listen I don’t just buy girls drinks that I just met. They will
respect you more, trust me. The nice guy routine of buying drinks just
does not work – it’s like you are trying to buy their approval with
drinks – women see straight through this.

Rule 6 #: Never try kiss a girl in front of her friends

I only realised this much later in the game but it’s true, some girls
might feel a bit embarrassed smooching some guy she just met in front
of her friends, there is a lot of social pressure for her not to do
it. So always isolate, and when you make your move make sure her
friends are not right next to her. You’ll notice she might be far more
responsive to your advances when her friends are not watching so
isolation is key.

Rule 7 #: Create enough sexual tension before trying to get her to
your place.

A common mistake when dropping the line “do you want to come back to
my place?” is you have to say it when she is ready to hear that. Make
sure that there is enough sexual tension that she will agree to that.
So dance with her, kiss her, get her revved up so that you can just
see in her eyes she wants to take things further. But then when she
agrees to come home with you, always imply that you’re not going to
have sex and that you just want to hang out for a bit – get something
to eat / sober up etc. This builds comfort with her because you have
just cancelled out what she might be wondering about, whether or not
she actually wants to sleep with you. Once she gets to your place,
don’t rush into making advances, make her feel comfortable in your
space and only then escalate. Don’t imply you want to have sex, but
turn her on enough from kissing her and touching her that she actually
decides for herself that she wants to have sex and then go for it. She
will be expecting you to just want sex so do the opposite and it’ll
just make her want to do it more!

Net in afrikaans!

Posted by on July 13, 2011 No comments

Afrikaans grappe jokes humourWat is brandende liefde?……… Dis wanneer jy in die donker die Vaseline soek en die Vicks raakvat! ************************************************************

Gatiep en Maraai stap uit Spar uit met ‘n pram Maraai kyk in die pram en skree: “DISSIE VERKEERDE kind!!!” Gatiep se: ” Sjut-up man dit is ‘n beter pram!”

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Sekretaresse sien haar baas se gulp is oop. Sy se: “Meneer, jou garage deur is oop. Hy: “Sien jy my Ferrari?” Sy: “Nee, ek sien ‘n klein scooter met twee pap wiele.”

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Man wil sy van verander. Vrou by Binnelandse Sake vra: “Hoekom, wat’s fout met u van?” Man: “My van is Nis ” Dame: “Wat’s fout daarmee?” Man: “Skakel my kantoor en vra vir Mnr. Nis Die dame skakel en vra vir Mnr. Nis . Ontvangsdame aan ander kant: “Is dit Mnr A.Nis of Mnr P.Nis?” ************************************************************

Verpleegster grawe in haar handsak vir ‘n pen om ‘n tjek uit te skryf. Sy haal ‘n anale koorspen uit. “Verdomp”, sug sy, “Een of ander poephol het alweer my pen.”

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Klein Liesbet word 5 jaar oud. Ouma vra wat wil sy he vir haar verjaarsdag. “Die Pil Ouma”. Ouma kry amper ‘n hartaanval en vra geskok: “Hoekom?” Liesbet: “Ek het nou 10 poppe, genoeg is genoeg!”

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Venues for Meeting Hot Girls in Johannesburg

Posted by on June 14, 2011 1 comment

Rosebank Flea Market JohannesburgMany guys who study pickup or seduction are brainwashed that you have to meet women in nightclubs. You have many obstacles like a noisy environment, high levels of alcohol consumption, dancing and rowdy guys who sometimes try to AMOG you. So meeting women outside nightclubs must be considered.

There is a number of places to meet woman. It also helps if you share where you go or what you’ve seen in which mall to get your perspective.

Off the top of my head I’ve seen hot women here:
1. Salsa parties happening at various venues like Canto Latino, Rivonia; Latinova, Dance Junxion (Mall of Rosebank), Melville and Bryanston venues, etc. Find a teacher here and ask join their list here.

2. Flea Markets like Rosebank’s Rooftop Market by Mall of Rosebank on Sundays. Maybe Bruma Fleamarker near Eastgate used have some hot girls.

3. Cresta Shopping Centre, Killarney Mall, Rosebank The Zone (weekends and after hours for drinks I recommend Nino’s – ask for Chico, the manager who looks like a WWF wrestler), Eastgate, Sandton City, especially Mandela Square. Anywhere close to an Exclusive Books like Hyde Park (largest CNA and Exclusive Books in South Africa) especially when they have book sales. The malls are great on weekends early in the morning when it’s flooded with people having breakfast, and shopping.

4. Melrose Arch and similar venues where you have JB’s Corner, Primi Piatti and a host of other classy restaurants.

5. Speed dating parties happening several times a week across Gauteng hosted by Fastdate or SMARTdate speed dating events. You’ll find them on or smartdate.co.za I cannot vouch for how attractive these women are. From what I recall 2-4 years ago they were many divorced and on average around 6 maybe 7 if you lucky.

So what have you tried? There is no short supply of venues.

Television for the non-pussified Man

Posted by on May 26, 2011 No comments

For me television is designed to drive consumer behaviour. You may even say the shows are designed to supplement the constant barrage of advertising. Women and mothers are the primary target for this media brain washing. Remember the long infomercials in the mornings after 8am. Anyway there is clearly a shortage of of television programming for men – I mean besides the constant barrage of sports shows.

Here’s my comments on shows aimed at men from a top 10 list.

1. HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER – The guys in this show are not alpha males. Jason Segel as Marshall Eriksen always comes across as wimp in every
movie he has been in from Forgetting Sarah Marshall to Gullivers’ Travels. The supposed player in the show Neil Patrick Harris as Barney
Stinson is gay in real life. So this is complete rubbish.
2. WEEDS – this is almost there with bigger focus sex. I found the characters to some extent superficial and lacking depth. Nancy’s first husband, the DEA agent allows her to walk all over him. Nancy’s brother in law reminds of Tao of Steve’s attitude. He has big success with women but I could not figure out how, except for a strong level of disinterest in conforming; hence woman see him as a bad boy or something along the lines of a non-conformist. The drug lord that she marries later on shows some initial alpha male attitude and later starts to give her more and more status, thus lowering his own status and control of the relationship.

3. THE OFFICE (AMERICAN) – this is one funny show and Michael Scott is the worst and best boss anyone could have. However, he is also the worst example of being a complete wussy. Jim’s character has interesting qualities in his attitude towards breaking the rules, fun and humour, pranks and being relentless in pursuit of Pam. Not fully of lessons for alpha males, however full of cocky funny tips.

4. NIP/TUCK – a series that’s on my list of downloaded-series to watch because it has a strong sexual focus, and also pokes fun at the Hollywood ideal with plastic surgery. The two male leads are different yet exhibit very strong alpha male status. There seems to be a bro’s before ho’s attitude between them, which is a approach all guys on this forum should adopt. Highly recommended in the direct nature of the sexual liaisons – the ultimate social proof of being the Doctor i.e. giving them the authority (read power) over the (helpless) female clients.

5. TWO AND A HALF MEN – this is probably the best balances show between what to do, Charlie, and what never to do, his brother. The kid is almost irrelevant in the equation. He is even fat when he is grown up and nothing of value can be learned from him. Charlie is the main focus because he doesn’t care, he just moves on, and sees women as objects especially in the earlier seasons. The principles that makes him uber successful is the two rules from David X (1. Who cares what she thinks; 2. The most important person in the relation is YOU!).

6. CALIFORNICATION – Duchovny is a total bad boy. He keeps breaking the rules. He does not care what society thinks about him. Yet he is deeply passionate when is with a woman like she’s the only one in the world. How he balances the many sexual escapades with a deep loving and caring relationship with his wife is amazing and I’ve not complete figured out how he does that – maybe it’s the sex that keeps her coming back. A worthy male role model if ever there was one on pussified television.

7. ENTOURAGE – this is one I enjoyed from season 1-7. The only thing is the main characters gets most of his pussy because he is a pretty boy AND he is a famous actor. So the question remains can he get the same hot pussy if he WAS NOT a hot actor in Hollywood? Maybe, because it’s clear from his friendship with his manager, he was a big hit with girls in school. So I ask you was Colin Farrel, Jude Law or Brad Pitt alpha males or super successful with hot women before they made it big? I wonder.

I have not watched  Rescue Me, It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Sons of Anarchy.

How to detect and deal with shit tests from Women

Posted by on May 18, 2011 1 comment

Question: Does anyone know how to detect shit-tests? Sometimes sets respond by saying they’ve got boyfriends just to see ur reaction. Why do they do this and how should 1 respond to these ‘tests’?

From a former dating coach, Garshwin

Shit tests also known as biological tests to make sure women mate with the right guy (or at least the guy that’s right for the moment) is a good thing.

Have u ever attracted a woman and she didn’t test you?

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How did you feel?

Did you feel you’ve truly WON her over? Did you feel that bonded? Like you really deserve the prize after the battle?

Well, just as women need to test us men to secure themselves we need them to test us to enjoy the battle, the banter…

We want to feel MASCULINE.

And the tests amplify that.

Lol, but there’s always the give and take, the plus and minus, the ying and yang, odds and ends, the more or less, etc. In other words, if they test too to a point where you’re gut is telling you that she’s really pissing you off now then you’re probably right. On the contrary, if she doesn’t test you every now and then (even if you’re married) then you’ll also lose some attraction. She needs to keep on testing and you need to keep on passing in order to keep attraction chronicles going.

If you’re not keeping this up not you’re also going to find yourself in the divorce rate category in the long run. So be aware of this as
early as you can and start to master the passing of a woman’s tests. They’re always be there since it’s part of her make-u and it’s all
good. You just need to accept that.

Get this…

To a disciple who was forever complaining about others the Master said, “If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth.” – Anthony De Mello

Deep.

If you master the SURFACE stuff you’ll continue to go into a cul de sac to quickly get out of situations and try to impress people. Master the DEEP stuff and you’ll be able to see the matrix of almost any situation that gets thrown at you. If you do take on the task of mastering the deeper stuff you’ll notice that not only are u passing naturally but also in the right context and politically correct.

With regards to your specific question – Sometimes sets respond by saying they’ve got boyfriends just to see your reaction – there’s lot of variables involved. It could be true that she has a bf and she’s being polite or she could test you. When does she test you – immediately or after a while is also important to know. Was she with her friends or alone? Was it your approach or is she just like that on a normal day? Was there warmth (playful banter) in her comment or was it dead pan negative energy? Do u want to be with such a woman in future taken from your character assessment of her? Is she worth your time?

So it depends on context really and mastering the core psychology of women and how successful men do it will enable you to know how to past her test and if it was a test, etc.

I hope I have shed some light on the matter.