Category Archives: Seduction

Camp Event Festival

Posted by on January 9, 2012 No comments

This story was recently shared on our private forum for men…

I was on a camp this weekend, my aim was NOT to sarge. My main aim was to CHILL and HANGOUT with friends. I switched my phone off for 3 days, didn’t wanna have any disturbances from the outside world. I wanted to take break from city life.

The moment we parked our cars and set our tents. I didn’t expect to see so many hb’s. You won’t find 10′s or supermodels but there were lots of good looking ones. My friend said I must not bring any women back to the tent as there is no extra space. Like I said I never came to sarge but when my friends were sleeping and napping I did.

I hate using canned routines, too much memorising for me. I never used any routines, I was just being myself and after all it was a camp. I tried all sorts of openers and one opener I call the Tent System, the tent has no door where you can knock on so all you do is open it and say wrong tent and ask if you can join. Tried it many times.

I had 2 threesome opportunities I opened a 5 set, the bisexual hb (7) saw me talking to the 5 set then she ran a situational opener on me. She number closed me within 5 minutes, she said her gf is taking nap. I thought let me try out a threesome. We went over to her tent to introduce me to her gf I then went away immediately. Her gf looks like FREAKING dude.

I opened a 2 set hb 8 and hb 6. They came to the event on their own and didn’t have a tent to stay in. I told them they can sleep in my car. I wanted to close the hb 8 but didn’t have a wingman to take care of the obstacle. So I decided if this is how the game is played then lets play it this way.

There was 3 days full of daygame, nightgame, morninggame, eveningame, sunsetgame, sunrisegame, whatever you guys want to call it. Whether you a PUA or AFC, or whether you are good with women or not. There was no excuses to get laid.

I would recommend these type of events for anybody that wants to get good practice and to get rid of approach anxiety. Anybody that wants to get laid without using routines and shit. Its good for guys that just want to get laid without playing solid
game. It was that easy.

And Happy New Year to all the active and inactive pua’s on this lair.

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The Psychology of a Player interview

Posted by on July 6, 2008 6 comments

The Pickup Artist - The New and Improved Art of Seduction by Mystery aka Erik von MarkovikThis is an interview for launch edition of Destiny, a new women’s business magazine published by Khanyi Dhlomo. So many of these women’s magazines ask the same boring questions about dating or relationships, so this was a real treat to explore. It’s also the most popular article on this blog.

1. Why do some men decide to become players?

Most players don’t decide to become players. They just find they are naturally good with women i.e. they understand how to make a women feel good and this naturally creates attraction. Players make up a small, very small fraction of men. Those who are motivated to become pickup artists (or players) do so out of frustration and lack of success with women growing up. For example, Mystery, the most revered pick-up artist in the world was a nerd, introverted and into computers growing up. He transformed himself by becoming a stage magician and using this to launch his career as a professional pick-up artist. He is the mentor of Neil Strauss, author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artist (2005).

2. What do they gain from it?

The most important thing a man gains from becoming a player is confidence with women. They begin to understand the process of how to create attraction, how to get women into bed, how to make women come back for more. They learn what most guys only hope to achieve which is that men can also have sexual selection because most men believe women are the choosers. More specifically they learn a set of internal beliefs, attitudes and a mindset which women find irresistible.

3. What drives a good man to become a Casanova?

Again in most cases it’s a severe lack of success with women which drives them to seek out the knowledge, know-how and role models who can teach them how to turn things around. Casanova made most of the women he had sex with very happy because he was able to focus in on their inner most desires and allow them to live out a idealistic fantasy. By comparison the average male is plain and boring.

4. Does culture have anything to do with it?

No because players or Casanova’s can be found in all countries, all cultures and throughout the ages. Matt Ridley in his ground breaking book, The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature, explains how intelligence has been one of the outcomes through sexual selection, which is a separate and concurrent development alongside evolution. What I mean is this, males develop a high intelligence, to outwit the competition. The females benefited with each generation of reproduction and the transfer of genes.

5. How do you spot a Casanova?

The best players are also guys’ guys because they can get along with anyone. They have superb social skills and assert their alpha status over a social group becoming the de facto leader. The easiest way to spot a Casanova is to observe how a guy interacts with both women and men. He cannot be confident with women if he is not able to lead the men. In one sense he is more like Don Juan (seducer) who will be quiet, even reserved because he does not intentionally raise any alarm bells. He is prefers to observe the surroundings and group interaction so he can choose the best possible moments to make his move on the particular woman he prefers. Another type of player is more of “the Mayor” where he is friendly and talkative to everyone.

6. Can you change him to become monogamous in a relationship?

Yes because serial monogamy is a myth. It simply means the man has not met a woman who has more to offer than himself. So for example find a man like Matthew McConaughey, considered a player, settling down with Brazilian model Camila Alves. You will also notice how many playboy types go through multiple marriages because they are trying to find the best match based on their own subjective criteria. And I’ll guarantee you part of that includes a woman who’s a challenge with very high
self-esteem (because they have high self-esteem).

7. Do you have any examples that come to mind?

QUESTION: So who is the biggest player you’ve ever met?

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Brent Smith on Who Are You Talking To?

Posted by on June 29, 2007 1 comment

I’ve just signed up for a monthly podcast with American Dating Coach Brent Smith. Brent Smith was first interviewed on the David DeAngelo Advanced Series. And after a while he launched his own website over at Absolute Power Dating which allows you to subscribe to his short and powerfully direct ideas on retaining your power in dating and relationships with women. Brent has some of the best advice I’ve ever found. And it’s all about being a natural, being social and open to new experiences. On his MySpace profile you can access archives of his newsletter re-posted as blogs.

So here’s a short video clip of him followed by some great advice about not limiting your conversation to talking to women but also talking to men.

If you’re limiting your interactions to women only, you’re missing the boat. Whether you need
a new wingman or just want to look social, talking to men is essential. Some of the greatest
contacts I’ve made and the greatest experiences I’ve had are due to speaking to other men.I truly believe that you’re only one interaction away from everything you want. The problem is that you don’t know which interaction it will be. I proved this theory most recently when I was
waiting for a client at the bar. An older gentleman came up to order a drink and the conversation went like this:

Me: How’s everything?

Him: Everything’s great. You?

Me: I’m awesome. Just waiting for a friend. Where are you from?

Him: Boston. You?

Me: Here. What’s on the agenda tonight?

Him: I’m going to the Maxim Magazine party with a bunch of models and celebrities…would you like to join us?

Welcome to my life. I have hundreds of stories like the above and it’s one of the reasons that
my life is like an adventure every day. I never know what’s going to happen.

Want to know how to do this on MySpace or Facebook?

Subject: How’s Everything?

Body: Hey (name), I know it’s a little weird getting an email from another guy, but I’m seeking
male friends who share my passion for women. As you can see from my page, I’m building a great social life. Maybe we’ll hang out sometime, talk to women, have a few laughs and drinks. Give me a shout back if you’re interested.

Cheers,

John

P.s. If you’re not great with women, that’s cool too. I can help point you in the right direction.

Try it and let me know what happens!

Connect with Brent Smith through his Myspace Profile here.

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Neil Strauss interviewed on The View

Posted by on May 23, 2007 No comments

Neil Strauss is a Los Angeles-based author and journalist who writes for The New York Times and Rolling Stone, where he is a contributing editor. He is well-known for his best-selling book The Game. Here’s an excellent interview with him on a American day time talk show The View from back in 2005. Very interesting is that his girlfriend Lisa Leveridge is in the audience and the talk show hosts actually asks her some questions which she answers with a lot of confidence given the situation…

Mystery interview on Conan O’Brien

Posted by on May 20, 2007 1 comment

Mystery aka Erik Von Markovik, is a pioneer of the seduction community, and a main character in the non-fiction book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, by Neil Strauss. Mystery has been a prolific contributor to the online forums and published several books mostly in ebook format. After the release of Neil Strauss’ book he has entered into more of a mainstream persona. So I found this short interview on the Conan O’Brien show. Mystery is not able to get into any specifics but demonstrates one of his chief strategies; that of peacocking. Peacocking is when you – the man – wears something unusual that draws a women’s attention and allows her to come up to you and comment on it. I for example have a very unusual ring that a friend bought when the Dalai Lama came to South Africa a few years ago. It has a whole story that goes with it because of the Buddhist mantra written in Sanskrit. For more on Mystery please take a moment to visit his Mystery Method website and review his book, audio and DVD products.


Mystery On Conan O’Brien
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Excuse Me, Do You Have Permission?

Posted by on February 16, 2007 No comments

Brent Smith Dating CoachYou remember it. The piece of paper your teacher handed you that said something like, “We’re going on a field trip next Friday.”

Then, you were told that all you needed to do was take it home, get your parent’s signature and you could go; you crossed your fingers hoping not to hear the word “No”.

Then, there were the notes your parents had to write when you missed school for some reason such as being sick or being out of town. It was called
an “Excuse”.

For obvious reasons, the above are good procedures when you’re a child. But, it doesn’t stop there.

When you’re an adult it’s,

“I need to ask my girlfriend/wife if I can go out with you guys”.

And, hoping she doesn’t say no.

Then there’s the ever popular “Doctor’s note” in order to cancel your flight, miss work or cut class.

So when it comes to being successful with women, you’re still asking someone for permission, afraid of hearing, “No” and then making excuses.

Who are you asking?

Certainly, you’re asking women. But more importantly, you’re asking yourself, your sub-conscious, your inner voice or whatever you want to call it. Stop asking yourself for permission to be successful with women.

You all have a universal permission slip that you can use any time you want. The problem is that even though you might fill it out, you’re still waiting for someone else to sign it. You’re adults now and can sign it any time you want.

So here’s what I want you to do:

Take out a piece of paper and write the words “Permission Slip” at the top. Then fill it out with all the things you want.

***Now, here’s the important part***

SIGN IT YOURSELF.

You now have permission; you’re hearing “Yes” and you have no more excuses. Let me know what happens!

Coaching (1-on-1) If you want to live this life right now you can start by signing up for my coaching program. Whether you start on the phone or in person, start now!

Click here right now for more information and to sign up for 1-on-1 coaching packages.

That’s it for now. Good luck out there!

Brent Smith

Badboy on Being Honest

Posted by on October 2, 2006 No comments

Badboy Lifestyle direct game pickup artist CroatiaI know it’s hard to say what you really think. This is because everything we say first goes through our logical filter which screens out what is smart to say, or not smart to say. Usually that filter develops in puberty and is created by societal pressure. You must learn to think for yourself and override this filter. If you observe confident people, you will notice that they are very direct and demanding, which radiates power to others. They think for themselves and ask for exactly what they want. You need to do the same; especially with women.

When it comes to girls, it’s much better to to honestly say what you think and intend rather than play games and send mixed signals. Lying develops mistrust and drama and usually ends badly.

Once there’s mistrust, girls are always trying to figure out whether you are lying to them. It’s normal for them to ask you where you’ve been and constantly check for proof. Like a police detective, her mind will work and investigate all possible scenarios. She will ask why you stayed longer at the office, why you called your female colleague, why you look tired. They analyse your answers, search your pockets and read messages in your mobile phone when you’re are not around. It is difficult to hide anything from them. So you can go one of two ways: scramble to come up with explanations for every situation or just be honest.

Both ways work – but lying only works until you get caught. Unless you are a very imaginative and lucky guy, the honest way is easier and is not likely to hurt anyone. When you are promising monogamy but not practising it, things get very difficult once you are caught with another woman. It won’t go away without big drama and usually will finish the relationship. If you promise she’s your only one and then begin acting suspiciously, she will look for proof of your disloyalty, making your life hell. And when she gets some, you are in trouble.

Just be honest. Do not make her believe that she is the only one if she is not. Tell her that you are seeing other girls if she asks. You will be surprised by how she reacts. If she likes being with you and you haven’t falsely led her to believe differently, she will rarely cut off the relationship Her logical brain can’t find a reason to leave you or make too much drama because she still wants to spend time with you and you haven’t done anything deceitful. You are simply a high status male who enjoys the company of women, her being one of them in her own special way, and you make no apologies for it. She will respect you for this. And you can feel better for not living a dishonest life.

If you aren’t having multiple relationships with women of high quality and want to change this area of your life, learn more about Direct Game from the best at a BadBoy Seduction Workshop. We teach you all the skills you will need from the Approach through Relationship Management to get the results you dream about.

Badboy on Life Rules for Men

Posted by on June 26, 2006 No comments

Badboy Seduction Guru1) Girls Will Not Make You Happy

Happiness is inside YOU, not in other people… or stuff that you need to buy. That is exactly society wants you to think; to look outside yourself to others or things you need to buy for your happiness. But this can only bring temporary happiness. Most girls out there are unhappy with their lives and they search for a man to make them happy. Actually they search for a happy man, to jump into his life, and enjoy his life. That is why you must focus on yourself first, before you bring someone else in your life.

2) If You Don’t Change You Will Stay Where You Are

This is simple. Same actions get same results. If you are not happy with what you are getting from life, it’s time to change. Try anything, but don’t stay where you are because it will lead you exactly to where you are now. Moving in a new direction will lead to new results.

3) What Would You Do If There Was No Fear?

Can you imagine how your life would be if there were absolutely no fear in it? Ask yourself, what would you do, how would you behave? Then start doing those things, little by little, to decondition yourself from fear and reprogram yourself to do the things you really want to do. When you beat your fear, you will be FREE.

4) The Sooner You Forget Your Old Girlfriend, The Sooner You Will Find a New One

Most guys, after they break up with a girl, they think about her for months. It’s normal after long term relationships to have emotions for that girl, but the sooner you forget about her, the sooner you will find a new girl. Be aware that an end is a new beginning. It’s smart to always have a backup girl in your life, so when you break up with one girl, you can jump to the other one. That is the reason why you should always stay social and go out, no matter how hot and pefect your girl is. There is always a chance you will break up.

5) Don ’t Wait For Girls To Come To You

You should always be pro-active. It’s a very bad idea to stay home and think, “Its just going to happen.” That’s how girls think, because they generally play a more passive role in society. It’s written in your genes that we are the stronger sex, the hunters, the ones that make thing happen. That’s how it’s been for million of years. Don’t betray your genes and evolution.

6) If You Think You Can Get The Girl, You Can

It’s very important to stay focused on positivity and be sure that for every action you do, sooner or later you will be rewarded. Avoid negative thoughts, girls can feel it, and as soon they smell you are a “bad thinker” they will avoid you.

7) Go For Your Dreams

Never abandon your dreams. They will keep you motivated. There is nothing on this planet that can stop you from making your dreams come true, except you. There is nothing more important than your dreams. Life is too short to not make yourself happy.

8) Start Chasing Girls And ENJOY It

Soon you will realize that the chase is so much fun it is often times better than the actual sex is. In the long run, girls like sex more than guys do. We get bored with one girl pretty quickly and our genes motivate us to a find a new girl, to spread our semen. While girls are programmed to find that ‘special one’ and raise kids with him. So enjoy the chase, enjoy going out, and have fun doing it. It’s a natural instinct for us.

9) Life Is Constant Change

Those who cannot adapt themselves to new environments will die. To be really successful in life and with women, you must use everything life gives you. All your good and bad qualities. You must use all disadvantages to your advantage. Loud music, dark clubs, your hobbies… everything! It’s a skill to learn to use everything to your advantage. It’s different way of thinking than you are p robably used to but always ask yourself, “What can I do with this?” and, “How can I use this in my favour?”

10) The More You Worry About Getting Girls, The Less Success You Will Have

Neediness is a big turn off for everybody. When you want something too much, it lowers your value as a person. It means something is more important then you are. So the key is: know what you want on the inside, but be cool, like you don’t care too much on the outside or that it will come easily to you. The less you appear to care and the easier things seem for you, the better results you will get.

11) Every Girl Is A Potential Girlfriend, Whether You Realize It Or Not

Everything is an opportunity. The girl walking down the street, two girls in a coffeeshop talking, the girl next door . If you take what life gives you and make the absolute most of it, you will find a lot of opportunities that you never thought were possible. A new girl will come to you as a gift if you enjoy it as a challenge, make the move and beat your fear.

12) Fear of Change Will Prevent You From Changing

People are afraid of change. Most of them are zombies, and they don’t want to change because of a fear of the unknown. And of course if you don’t change you will get what you’ve always got. You must SEE the advantage of changing yourself and take ACTION immediately, even if it is uncomfortable.

Remember to checkout Badboy’s website and also review his new ebook, DVD and the best life in-field workshops in the Seduction community.

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Are parents still stopping you from having a girlfriend?

Posted by on June 11, 2006 No comments

There are a lot of young men who find it difficult to go out and meet new girls on days when they have a quarrel with their parents. There are also a lot of older men who can go out easily and have success. Why is that so?

The behaviour taught from father to son carries in a son’s mind his whole life. Many of our ideas and beliefs our parents put into us are essential for life. For example our parents teach us how to cross the street or they taught us how to read. Without good parental guidance we would not survive as children, they wish us best all the time.

But unconsciously they may install a big feeling of inadequacy in a young boys mind that will give him problems all his life.

Have you ever had your mother tell you: “Your shirt is soo dirty,you cannot go out like that!?”

After a million such remarks you will feel accustomed to feeling bad about yourself if you don’t have a clean, nice shirt. No joking!

It may sound funny but think about it, it happens to all of us. Those kind of remarks seem totally unimportant now that you are living far away from your parents, thousands of miles away and you see them only during holidays.

But when you are not wearing your best clothes and you meet a girl you feel attracted to, the internal program put into your mind by your family when you were still a little child and couldn’t resist your parents advice will start working, it will start working soo much that you will feel bad about yourself and you will not be able to do your best and get the girl attracted to you.

So it may happen that even though you are much older, your mothers remarks are having an impact now on your confidence.

Do a little experiment to see are you under influence of what I call society programing.

Remember how your parents always taught you that you have to pay attention when eating biscuits so pieces don’t end up on the floor. I want you to take a few biscuits in your hands and sit on your couch, then I want you to start twisting them slightly in your palms so little peaces start falling to the floor. Are you feeling pressure in your head?

Are you feeling uncomfortable?

Maybe still no.

When you are in a company of other people I want you to do the same thing. Are you feeling huge pressure build up “in the air”.

That means you are now under influence of manners that were put in your mind when you were young.

Can you see how strong influence they have on you when you just do a silly task of basically doing absolutely nothing important?

On that simple example it is easy to illustrate how we are controlled by forces that we can not influence.

Imagine you’ve just met a girl you fancy and you are dressed in old and worn out clothes, but in your packet you have the most modern cell phone that looks like it just came from an episode of Star Wars. Adds are that you will take it out to show her that you have some expensive material possession, to impress her. Actually it will be really hard to resist the drive to take your cell phone out, or your new Italian sunglasses to impress the woman.

I have discovered that over whelming majority of men stay in that pattern their whole life, always looking for something else that will impress the women more but never actually making a move on her and approaching her and finally not being a coward.

The society program is so strong that it is hard to sense it when you are close to a beautiful woman so I suggest that you start small and buy some biscuits!

It may look like an insignificant step but believe me it is a small step for humankind but a huge leap for you. I am one of the founders of a company Fidentia that helps men get confidence for approaching women and on our workshops we go out and our students meet women by themselves. We’ve manage to develop hundreds of exercises to help you control your internal state and to make it easy and natural to talk to an unknown women as you would talk to your best friend.

One of the basic building blocks of our approach to teaching is that the students gets comfortable being in their own skin, that he gets comfortable being who he is and not because he has a nice body or a new watch.

That is why our students have a huge advantage over any competition. While the average man works 9 to 5 and then afterwards he sees a new woman he could approach. His mind tells him that he is out of shape and that he will get toned for summer, that means in just 6 months.

Our student works from 9 to 5 also but when he sees a dazzling woman he approaches her and she is very attracted to his unusual confidence, and now he has a girl fiend while the other guy is dreaming of buying a new car stereo.

So I advise you to start with the biscuits and to get comfortable in your own skin even if you are wearing something totally out of date.

Then when you go out on Saturday night and drees your best you will know that your looks and posses ion are just your secondary means, but for other guys they are the only thing they have. You can email us and tell us how your mission is going , contact Ranko at http://www.attractanddate.com and I will guide you through it.

by Ranko Magami aka Shark at AttractandDate.com

The Game by Neil Strauss

Posted by on September 13, 2005 3 comments

The Game by Neil Strauss

If you’re a guy who has ever been curious about what it takes to seduce women in the real world (as opposed to the watered-down ideas Hollywood would have you believe actually work), or a woman who wondered how real-life “players” really operate, then there is a new book hitting the shelves this week that you absolutely MUST read.

Two years ago, Neil Strauss — Rolling Stone writer and New York Times best-selling biographer of Jenna Jameson and Mötley Crüe — took what he calls “a journey into one of the oddest and most exciting underground communities that, in more than a dozen years of journalism, I have ever come across.”

What followed was a bizarre descent into a world-wide underground subculture where brotherhoods of men, brought together by the internet, congregate and study how to meet, attract, and ultimately bed women. This is an underworld shaded from the public view, filled with colorful characters that have to be seen to be believed.

There’s the manic-depressive professional illusionist who moonlights as a personal seduction coach, taking men to clubs at rates of over $1000 a night. There’s the forty-year old failed comedian who hypnotizes women into sleeping with him. There’s the former Real Estate broker who built a financial empire teaching men how to get dates. There’s the two college drop-outs inspired by the movie Fight Club who travel the world creating cults designed to seduce women. And then there’s Neil Strauss himself.

As a single male with little personal success with women, Strauss was intrigued by the teachings and colorful personalities in this seduction community. And as a reporter, he wanted to meet these men and find out what made them tick. But as he got sucked deeper and deeper into this subculture and taken under the wings of all its leaders as part of their elite inner-circle, Strauss ceased to be a mere observer and actually became one of its superstars.

Before long, Strauss found himself at the center of this secret society. Looked up to by desperate men wanting to learn his secrets, seen as an equal among its best teachers, and widely regarded as one of the biggest innovators in the techniques the community had been created to pioneer, Strauss was no longer documenting the story of this community — he had suddenly become the story.

In his new book, “THE GAME: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists,” Strauss for the first time takes center stage in one of his books as he finds himself at the epicentre of a real-life drama rife with massive egos, shocking betrayals, and cut-throat business rivalries. He soon discovers that what he has entered into has ceased to be about becoming more successful with women, and suddenly become a struggle for his very soul. And probably the most incredible aspect of THE GAME is that…

Every single word of it is TRUE.

At turns outrageous, hilarious, and upsetting, but always compelling, THE GAME is the first book to venture into this uncharted (and widely unknown) terrain of sexual politics. Men will study it to learn its secret techniques. Women will flock to it to learn how guys think. But no matter what, everyone will enjoy reading this amazing story.

Here’s what others are saying about THE GAME:

“This book on the Secret Society of Pickup Artists is one of the great surprises you will get from reading a work of non-fiction; no matter how high your expectations are, they will be surpassed by his insight, wit, and clever word-craft.

The greatest gift you will get from your time penetrating the game will be to spend several hours in the company of one of America’s truly great working writers. You will put this book down after turning the last page and you will feel within yourself that (because of this book) you have become a better person. The man will make you understand that your only limitations are in your own mind.” – Clint Arthur

“This book is about how an average guy turns into a better man. It’s what every guy wants. After all, what guy hasn’t wished that he could have more CHOICE with women- because that’s what we’re talking about here. That’s what it’s really about.” –Blake Richards

“His book is fascinating and very true; I strongly recommend it to those guys who mistakenly think they cannot have any woman they want. Neil is a true example of it. While reading it, pay attention to his personality; that’s the strongest card he plays and the only one that really matters after all.” –Ivan Alvarado

“I can’t put it down-already on Chapter 5–Wow! The guys are reading it and the women better read it too.” –Sandy

“The book is hilarious, but what really makes it powerful is that it is a tale of self-improvement. Once you get past the lingo, lines, and gimmicks, it’s really about an average guy learning to be more confident with himself and women.” –S. Marc

“Just finished this book, couldn’t put it down. This is an amazing story of a few men, who decided to take their lives and desires in their own hands. Strauss holds nothing back and provides a candid exploration into the psyche of a few guys, who went from being regular average guys to being with some of the most attractive women around…” — Neeraj Bansal

“This is, bar-none, one of the most complete and entertaining guides on the subject of seduction I have ever seen. In fact, I’d rate it up there along side Robert Greene’s classic, The Art Of Seduction. This is a must own book.” –Joseph Matthews