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Why you need a dating coach

You can keep making the same mistakes, or you can work with a dating coach who can help you find, meet, attract and start relationships with the women or men you are attracted too. Realistic expectations are important; a change in your attitude and some re-programming of your belief systems may be required. It all begins with overcoming bad habits that have perpetuated since you were born; much of it being a reflection on how you perceive yourself to be.

Here is just a selection of what you will learn on our Bootcamp or Coaching programmes:

• continually build confidence;
• create attraction
• build rapport;
• get a phone number in less than three minutes;
• • set-up and execute the first, second and third dates successfully;
• • gain a woman’s trust;
• • determine whether the woman is ready to be embraced affectionately,

Our coaching programme for men runs for a minimum duration of twelve weeks and guarantees measurable results. Depending on the client’s needs, we have our sessions once a week. This is either face to face or via telephone or Skype, so where we are and where you are does not matter. In the initial meeting, we clarify your dangers, opportunities and strengths.
During the coaching ongoing feedback via email or SMS is given. Progress is measured and consistent with your effort and commitment. All clients have unlimited email support to ensure progress is carefully tracked.
Profiles of Coaches

Ramon Thomas is South Africa’s top dating coach. His particular focus is in helping clients create and maintain a social life that attracts a wider variety of appealing women; by expanding the client’s social circle through building confidence with the opposite sex and becoming comfortable when approaching strangers in an attempt to avoid making common mistakes early on in the dating process.
He is a regular featured guest in a number of television and radio shows and publications including:
• Who’s Your Daddy, 2011
• MoneyWeb, 2010
• Kaya FM’s 2Strangers and a Wedding, 2008;
• Statistician’s guide to Romance, 2008;
• How to pull women, Financial Mail, 2006;
• Cyber Love on MNET’s Carte Blanche, 2005.

No matter whom you are or where you live, you are very likely to experience some anxiety when trying to approach an attractive woman. Recent studies have shown that men can never completely rid themselves from this tension because it is in your genes. Meeting the right kind of woman is something which most men deny themselves; settling for the woman that is just “good enough” is what we help you to avoid.

Now that you ready to confront your insecurities about women, society and your role as a man, where do you go? I will teach you the right attitude, mindset and steps to follow to enable you to be more successful with women and dating – and you don’t have to be rich or handsome to do it…

REAL TESTIMONIAL
Going out and meeting women was an amazing experience for me as
I was one of those SHY guys who would just sit t and stare at a woman that I was attracted to. Going out with Ramon and watching him approach women made me realise that it was not that difficult to approach them as long as I had a basic guideline on what to do. Now all that remain for me to do is to go out and meet women.. I have learned that women will not bite; if you approach them confidently, they are quite happy to be entertained. Mitesh, 25, Johannesburg

More About What We Do
Every person has his or her own personality, and therefore we carefully match you with a coach in the area of specialisation when it comes to the dating field. We therefore do not expect clients to give up their own ways but rather enhance it with increased confidence and enhancing the abilities inherent in them. Men are rational and often find it difficult understanding women because of their emotional nature. This in turn influences how quickly women change their minds, resulting from external and internal factors.

For instance; a woman will meet a man and feel comfortable around him, and in her excitement, tell her family about him. After a few questions, the family decide that he is not well suited for her and turn against her until she leaves him. This is just one scenario that confuses men because they cannot see it coming. Another challenge would be the pace of life and speed at which things change in the 21st century. People forget how to communicate and many misunderstandings occur.

Throughout our team, we have combined experience with women from all age groups, cultures and many countries. This real world experience helps us to be keen listeners and observers of social dynamics and interactions between men and women.

Time is important to everyone especially for the quality of your relationships. It is more important than money because you can always make more money. People end up in relationships by default. They are willing to waste time on relationships with incompatible people. According to some personality compatibility charts like Zodiac and others, you are compatible with about 60% of the people you meet. The likelihood of finding your ideal match is reduced to 30%; meaning that the vast majority of women or men you meet are not suited to your personality, making the relationship prone to disaster and failure.
Dating coaches often work with men, and spend time with women helping them with their relationships. Since The Game: Penetrating The Secret Society of Pick-up Artists by Neil Strauss, in 2005, younger men are getting involved in what’s called, the seduction community.

These guys go out in small groups “sarging” (looking for girls) and using a variety of techniques learned from books, blogs and online forums. This process helps build practical confidence as they learn by watching each other approach women and practicing what they have learned. By treating the exercise as a game, it is fun for both the men and women.

Most school education trains people to be compliant, consumer-driven slaves, and ignore social intelligence. Mastering conflict resolution, romantic relationships or even simply understand your own emotions are often ignored in school curriculums. We have spent a lot of time developing such programs for South Africans; and consulting with some of the biggest dating service providers like SMARTdate, Fastdate and Lovemail.

We live in an information age and yet the our decisions making is getting worse, not better. To stay misinformed in serious matters of this nature is disheartening; fortunately, there is help available now for all South African’s who are lonely or frustrated in their romantic relationships.
We have done several interviews on SABC3′s 3Talk with Noeleen, SAfm, Destiny man and many other radio and television media and our response is always the same; “this subject could be an ongoing series because everyone is affected by relationships with the opposite sex”.

• KayaFM’s 2Strangers and a Wedding, 2008
• Statistician’s guide to Romance, 2008
• How to pull women, Financial Mail, 2006
• Cyber Love on MNET’s Carte Blanche, 2005