People over 30 often complain they struggle with dating. The reason for this is they often find many of their friends are married or in long term relationships. So they feel like they cannot relate to them. They also make excuses about the importance of their career and how many commitments they have. All of this is pure poppycock because can either be single or social. It’s a mindset.

The following story sent to me illustrates what can be done…

There is a guy who is now 36 and in a relationship, but when I first met him he was 33. He is very successful and a good looking guy, but kept on screwing things up with every woman he met. He had been in Cape Town for years and moved to Joburg to work. He came here and made friends very easily and women were interested in him until he showed interest, which turned out to be oozing with desperation and neediness. Every women would be over him in about two weeks. Quite frankly, he scared the hell out of them. He ticked all the boxes except for the one where he would become scarily desperate.

I managed to convince him into pacing himself when he met a new women and not to fixate on one women, but to rather date a few at the same time in an effort to establish which one would be best for the long-term relationship he was so desperate for. It worked so well and now he is with a really cool woman that he would never have gotten with his previous approach to women. They have now moved in together and are very happy.

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