Monthly Archives: February 2009

Kisses unleash chemicals that ease stress levels

By RANDOLPH E. SCHMID, AP Science Writer Randolph E. Schmid, Ap Science Writer Fri Feb 13, 6:22 pm ET

 A couple dances and kisses inside a heart shaped made from candles during a flash mob ahead of Valentine's DayCHICAGO – “Chemistry look what you’ve done to me,” Donna Summer crooned in Science of Love, and so, it seems, she was right. Just in time for Valentine’s Day, a panel of scientists examined the mystery of what happens when hearts throb and lips lock. Kissing, it turns out, unleashes chemicals that ease stress hormones in both sexes and encourage bonding in men, though not so much in women.

Chemicals in the saliva may be a way to assess a mate, Wendy Hill, dean of the faculty and a professor of neuroscience at Lafayette College, told a meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science on Friday.

In an experiment, Hill explained, pairs of heterosexual college students who kissed for 15 minutes while listening to music experienced significant changes in their levels of the chemicals oxytocin, which affects pair bonding, and cortisol, which is associated with stress. Their blood and saliva levels of the chemicals were compared before and after the kiss.

Both men and women had a decline in cortisol after smooching, an indication their stress levels declined.

For men, oxytocin levels increased, indicating more interest in bonding, while oxytocin levels went down in women. “This was a surprise,” Hill said.

In a test group that merely held hands, chemical changes were similar, but much less pronounced, she said.

The experiment was conducted in a student health center, Hill noted. She plans a repeat “in a more romantic setting.”

Hill spoke at the session on the Science of Kissing, along with Helen Fisher of Rutgers University and Donald Lateiner of Ohio Wesleyan University.

Fisher noted that more than 90 percent of human societies practice kissing, which she believes has three components — the sex drive, romantic love and attachment.

The sex drive pushes individuals to assess a variety of partners, then romantic love causes them to focus on an individual, she said. Attachment then allows them to tolerate this person long enough to raise a child.

Men tend to think of kissing as a prelude to copulation, Fisher said. She noted that men prefer “sloppy” kisses, in which chemicals including testosterone can be passed on to the women in saliva. Testosterone increases the sex drive in both males and females.

“When you kiss an enormous part of your brain becomes active,” she added. Romantic love can last a long time, “if you kiss the right person.”

Lateiner, a classical scholar, observed that kissing appears infrequently in Greek and Roman art, but was widely practiced, despite the spread of skin disease at that time by facial kissing. And there was a potential for social faux pas by kissing the wrong person at the wrong time.

Overall, the science of kissing — philematology — is under-researcherd, Hill concluded.

Source: AAAS

Seven signs that say you’ve got a keeper

By CORILYN SHROPSHIRE

Valentine’s Day is Saturday. If you haven’t found Mr. Wonderful by now, it’s probably too late for this year.

But take heart, there’s always 2010.

A Guy that's a keeperTo help you out in your quest, we talked to some experts for insight into how to recognize a keeper when you come across one. It’s important, they said, to realize that he may not be your clone — extroverts and introverts can mix, often quite nicely. Nor does he have to be the hottest or most charming guy in the room.

Likewise, they added, you might want to steer clear of guys who yell at waiters, pay too much attention to their cars or don’t seem to have any friends.

In talking with our experts — they included dating gurus and life coaches — we came up with seven signs that you’ve found one to take home to Mama:

•He shares your values, whether spiritual or religious.

•He gives you what you need to feel loved — provided you know what that is and can make that clear.

•He is authentic and has integrity. A truly wonderful guy treats people well; he recognizes his strengths and weaknesses and is not ashamed of them.

•He is responsible, responsive and reliable. He strives to do the right thing and mostly does.

•He’s a good listener. He’s a giver, not a taker.

•He wants what you want; if you want commitment, he does, too. He’s looking for a Ms. Wonderful.

•He accepts your quirks, moods and ideas, even if he doesn’t agree with them. He gets you.

Sources: Nina Atwood, therapist and author of Temptations of the Single Girl: Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid; Katherin Scott, a personal coach; Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach and co-author of Why You’re Still Single; Mark Robertson, an executive and personal coach; Noelle Nelson, a relationship therapist.

Source: Copyright 2009 Houston Chronicle and you may contact the author corilyn.shropshire@chron.com