Are you also limiting your beliefs dating in Johannesburg?

Posted by on May 14, 2008 Leave a comment (3) Go to comments

Here’s an email from a reader of this blog. This is a very good example of a limiting belief in the post-apartheid South Africa when it comes to women and interracial dating. It is clear from his responses that he has convinced himself that its true. Anyway read for yourself and post your comments at the bottom:

“Hi ramon, thanks for ur blog. I find quite interesting. I have read books like the game etc but i dont think they will apply in sa. Given our history sa is a heavily polarized community and interracial dating is taboo. For example if u r a man of color trying to date a white chic, u then have to try and overcome any prejudices she might have. I think ur blog is useful but it wont apply in sa.”

Here’s my first response:

Thanks for the feedback. You have a limiting belief about white women and therefore you have the success or failure you experience. I recommend you Google “brent smith myspace” and read his blog entries because they will help you remove any and all limiting beliefs. There are more articles about interracial dating coming to my blog.

Here’s his reply…

“thanks for your response. It’s not that I have a limiting belief but it’s a unfortunate fact about south africa. All that I was trying to say is that this could be an additional factor that needs to be considered when
applying the game here in SA. There are quite a number of blogs for Brent Smith and I haven’t managed to
read all of them. From what I can see he seems to have a good approach and it seems to be bringing him great success. How has the game been going for you in JHB? I feel that night life and the dating scene in JHB is a bit disappointing. Most people that I chat to seem to feel that cape town offers better prospects. The ratio of males to females is a lot better down there…”

Here’s my final response:

Yes, the additional factors is what I am exploring on my blog. Maybe it’s not very clear or specific and I appreciate your feedback because it’ll help me improve my advice.

What evidence do you have about the facts of interracial dating in South Africa? I have experienced interracial dating since the early 1990s especially after completing Matric in 1992. And this has only accelerated. I have dated all races of women, except Chinese women and I’m a Coloured guy. In my professional life I have mixed mostly with white people and they have always respected me.

You have to lead the men and the women will follow. So I suggest you make friends with some white guys who have common interests and hang out with them so you can be introduced to their white female friends in a more natural setting. You know I’ve met Indian guys or black who exclusively date white chicks. And countless other variations. I am dating a woman for the last year so I am not actively picking women right now. That’ll change shortly.

Yes, Cape Town does seem better but again I think that is another limiting belief. There is no evidence, I mean scientific studies to prove that so it’s all perception. Your own perception is the most important thing that counts against you and you may want to explore Ross Jeffries, the creator or Speed Seduction.

Beliefs,
  • http://solidgame.co.za Blade

    “You have to lead the men and the women will follow”

    Too true.
    A lot of my friends seem to thing that “getting good with women” or handling this aspect of their lives just involves women, they seem to miss the fact that sorting out these other parts of your life..like limiting beliefs are actually the building blocks.

    great post.

  • Suesreore

    Hi great thread you have going here!

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