Last Wednesday I went to play some pool with a good friend of mine. We went to a place called Stones near Cresta Mall, a bar come pool parlour, with branches across South Africa. This is a great venue to take women on a first date, especially if you want to get physical quickly because you can use the pool cue’s as props. My own personal policy is I never let a woman win. In fact I will take my time to teach her how to play pool if she really cannot. This of course leads to even more kino escalation, naturally.
Monthly Archives: May 2008
Why Manchester United may be bad for your sex life
Posted by PUA Webmaster
on May 26, 2008
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The art and science of a dating coach
Posted by ramon
on May 25, 2008
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Love mentors in demand among rich, educated groups
By Karin Zeitvogel
Americans invented the personal trainer to get physically fit and the career coach to give them a leg-up on the professional ladder.
But once they had hauled their size zero bodies and rippling abs to the very top of the career tree, and paused to allow their fancy to turn to thoughts of love, they realised they were out on a limb.
Enter the dating coach.
Unlike a traditional matchmaker, a dating coach will not arrange a tryst for you, but is “a personal trainer for people who want to fall in love,” one of the pioneers of the genre, Evan Katz, said.
“You have to do the work, you have to lift the weights, but I will guide you to make sure you don’t hurt yourself,” said Katz, who has been coaching people to successful love lives for five years.
His client pool is unlikely to dry up any time soon because, according to Katz, there are tens of millions of single people out there.
The people who employ the services of a dating coach tend to be educated, hard-working and relatively high up on the socio-economic ladder, not least because fees for the service are relatively high and not reimbursed by health insurance, coach Jennifer Viemont said.
How can some women be a class act and others not?
Posted by ramon
on May 15, 2008
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The short answer is: energy or what you sometimes call vibe.
While in Cape Town I normally have breakfast at least once at Mugg & Bean in Cavendish and I once again had a few meetings this past Saturday. While waiting to be seated I noticed the tall and stunning woman with the best white boots I have seen in a year. The most striking thing about her was her energy or aura or viba – take your pick. The rest her clothes were exceptionally well matches and she topped it off with a cute hat, also white. She was about 1.7m+ tall and carried herself very well like she walking on a red carpet. She walked slowly and never looked around at the other people walking to and fro in the mall. She was with a man who may or may not be her boyfriend. And what was also notable is that there was NO clinging. She was not holding onto him, nor was he holding onto her. There were what Zan Perrion and others have called, together apart. And Khalil Gibran in The Prophet, said there should be spaces in your togetherness.
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Are you also limiting your beliefs dating in Johannesburg?
Posted by ramon
on May 14, 2008
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Here’s an email from a reader of this blog. This is a very good example of a limiting belief in the post-apartheid South Africa when it comes to women and interracial dating. It is clear from his responses that he has convinced himself that its true. Anyway read for yourself and post your comments at the bottom:
“Hi ramon, thanks for ur blog. I find quite interesting. I have read books like the game etc but i dont think they will apply in sa. Given our history sa is a heavily polarized community and interracial dating is taboo. For example if u r a man of color trying to date a white chic, u then have to try and overcome any prejudices she might have. I think ur blog is useful but it wont apply in sa.”
Here’s my first response:
Thanks for the feedback. You have a limiting belief about white women and therefore you have the success or failure you experience. I recommend you Google “brent smith myspace” and read his blog entries because they will help you remove any and all limiting beliefs. There are more articles about interracial dating coming to my blog.
Here’s his reply…
“thanks for your response. It’s not that I have a limiting belief but it’s a unfortunate fact about south africa. All that I was trying to say is that this could be an additional factor that needs to be considered when
applying the game here in SA. There are quite a number of blogs for Brent Smith and I haven’t managed to
read all of them. From what I can see he seems to have a good approach and it seems to be bringing him great success. How has the game been going for you in JHB? I feel that night life and the dating scene in JHB is a bit disappointing. Most people that I chat to seem to feel that cape town offers better prospects. The ratio of males to females is a lot better down there…”
Here’s my final response:
Yes, the additional factors is what I am exploring on my blog. Maybe it’s not very clear or specific and I appreciate your feedback because it’ll help me improve my advice.
What evidence do you have about the facts of interracial dating in South Africa? I have experienced interracial dating since the early 1990s especially after completing Matric in 1992. And this has only accelerated. I have dated all races of women, except Chinese women and I’m a Coloured guy. In my professional life I have mixed mostly with white people and they have always respected me.
You have to lead the men and the women will follow. So I suggest you make friends with some white guys who have common interests and hang out with them so you can be introduced to their white female friends in a more natural setting. You know I’ve met Indian guys or black who exclusively date white chicks. And countless other variations. I am dating a woman for the last year so I am not actively picking women right now. That’ll change shortly.
Yes, Cape Town does seem better but again I think that is another limiting belief. There is no evidence, I mean scientific studies to prove that so it’s all perception. Your own perception is the most important thing that counts against you and you may want to explore Ross Jeffries, the creator or Speed Seduction.
Robert Downey Jr has the brass balls to be Iron Man
Posted by PUA Webmaster
on May 4, 2008
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As one of the most underrated actors of his generation Robert Downey Jr was never perceived as an action hero before the first Iron Man movie. Who knows what will happen to him now that he’s launched yet another super hero franchise and in the same breath forged a new angle for his career. Marvel keeps churning them out and the Stan Lee / Hugh Hefner cameo was a classic touch for those comic book insiders like myself. Stan Lee as the creator of the most famous Marvel comic characters like Spiderman.
As Tom Leykis would put it, Robert Downey Jr has brass balls indeed. Even though towards to the end of the movie he develops a conscious like most superhero’s are supposed to have one. The playboy stereotype is played up, almost to much, as his character seduces a female journalist early on in the film. You’re soon introduced to his trusty personal assistant, played by Gwyneth Paltrow. What is clear is that Tony Stark aka Iron Man’s true identity, is a genius inventor, followed through on capitalising on his abilities and uses it mostly to purchase sport cars and bed hot babes.
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