Monthly Archives: March 2008

Prostitutes beat dating and avoids time-wasting of pickup lines

Posted by on March 30, 2008 2 comments

An accountant friend of mine once suggested it is easier just to pay for sex and get it over with. Most guys will go out to a club, maybe pay a cover charge, buy drinks for himself and possibly several women, and he still has no guarantee of a sexual encounter, much less dating any of the women he meets, and much less developing a long term relationship (because most men are not looking for those anyway). So it was amusing to find this article below…

John Moore on sex: Prostitutes beat dating

An actor friend of mine once told me he was asked to perform oral sex on a director to secure a supporting role in a movie. “Did you do it?” I asked. “Sure why not,” he responded, “I do it for free– why wouldn’t I do it for $50,000?”

Just another unseemly Hollywood anecdote to some. But to those of us inclined to see the world through an economic lens, in financial instruments, it has its amateur and professional traders.

We know sex has intrinsic value because it is universally coveted (although more by men than by women). We fail to identify the transactional nature of everyday coupling only because of the ineffable and unquantifiable nature of the major currencies: youth, power and beauty. Those who have these qualities in abundance have little trouble obtaining gratification. If you lack in all of these areas, you can either do without, work exceedingly hard (begging, serial dating) or use the most commonly accepted currency there is, money.

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Jill Bolte Taylor’s powerful stroke of insight

Posted by on March 28, 2008 5 comments

This must be one of the most amazing stories someone has lived to tell. The experience described by Dr Jill Bolte Taylor is doing the rounds on the Web because of how powerfully she delivered her story at the TED 2008 Conference. For me it was a fascinating talk because it is east meets west or in her words left brain meets right brain talk. Read more »

What’s the purpose of getting engaged before marriage?

Posted by on March 24, 2008 1 comment

I have never been married so this post is completely biased. However, I’ve been to many weddings like most people have in their lifetimes. And in 3 cases I have been best man, twice to cousins and once to a best friend from school. I’m not sure if they were engaged but I assume they were because it’s such an excepted part of the wedding rituals. Anyway I received the following email from an American lady…

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Men give better dating advice for women

Posted by on March 23, 2008 No comments

This is no surprise for me because I’ve had the greatest response from women when they find out I’m a dating coach in South Africa. Men often do not want to ask for advice because they are afraid it makes them look weak. Anyway this is an excellent article about why women should ask their male friends for dating advice rather then their female friends (especially those who are also single/divorced)…

Women give women complicated advice about men, how to play games and trick a guy into dating them. Men give dating advice that is based on common sense and a more simplistic approach: smile, go after guys you have something in common with and don’t be hung up on how you look.

When Jakki Chrysler wants to know why a guy hasn’t called her, she does not consult her girlfriends. The 21-year-old knows they will be concerned, and would eagerly sit down to hash over the possible reasons why her love interest is not acting interested in return. But she usually opts to approach her male roommate, seeking out a perspective her female friends cannot provide.

“My girlfriends will stay positive for me. They’re more likely to say don’t worry about it, he’s probably really busy,” said the currently single fashion student. Whereas my guy friend will say you should just date other people and not be hung up on it.”

The notion that men give women more honest dating advice was famously introduced in an episode of Sex and the City, in which Miranda was informed by a male friend that a guy was “just not that into you.”

The line spawned a bestselling book called He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo that was then turned into a film, set for release this summer, starring Scarlett Johansson and Drew Barrymore.

But the concept has also kick-started a subsection of the self-help industry: Dating Advice for Dames Written by Dudes.

Read the full article: Men do it better

Spending the Easter Weekend with Paris Hilton in South Africa

Posted by on March 20, 2008 No comments

Paris Hilton Jakaranda children's home in Pretoria South AfricaUS socialite Paris Hilton is currently visiting South Africa with her boyfriend, Benji Madden. She has been on the local news and some photographs have already surfaced of Paris playing with school children from the Jakaranda Kinderhuis school in Pretoria. Her boyfriend Benji Madden and his band, Good Charlotte, are to perform at My Coke Fest over the Easter weekend.

As I noticed Paris on SABC television news I wondered if there’s anyone in the world right now who is better at self-promotion than Paris Hilton? I don’t think so because she just keeps popping up. It’s almost like you cannot get away from her brazen image, not even here at the bottom tip of Africa ;-)

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Zan Perrion interviewed by Men’s Health magazine in Cape Town

Posted by on March 15, 2008 2 comments

Zan Perrion, one of the most respected teachers from the seduction community, visited Cape Town about a year ago. My friend Lloyd de Jongh actually met him in person. The basic feedback was that Zan comes from a different world than the average guy. However, its clear he has spent over 20 years becoming a natural with women. Anyway decide for yourself if this video clip has any concepts of ideas that moves you…


Capricorn Bedroom Habits

Posted by on March 15, 2008 No comments

CAPRICORN December 23 – January 20

  • Ruling Planet: SATURN


The God who oversees time, discipline and dedication, which means Capricorn can go the distance – with major staying power – in bed and beyond!! Capricorns are very good at hiding their emotions, so it’s often hard to tell when they are truly, deeply in love. If you have a load of cash, you can almost bet on admiration from a Capricorn because the goat is turned on by money. Like I said before, Capricorn has great sexual stamina and the ability to go all night if they want to!

FAVOURITE POSITION

Spooning! Goat boys and girls love to take, or be taken from behind.

BEST SEX TOY

An office desk to “bond” on, or an erotic video will loosen up the randy goat.

CAPRICORN MALE IN BED

Imagination isn’t a strong suit for Capricorn so don’t expect acrobatics in the sack. Sex with him could possibly be as boring as watching paint dry and he tends to be a little bit selfish in that area too. BUT you can definitely count on him to be faithful if he has committed to you.

CAPRICORN FEMALE IN BED

She is strong and confident and likes to run the show! She’s a tough nut to crack but once inside her shell, she’s as sweet as caramel. Her favourite position may be missionary, but she seeks excitement in new locations, so experiment with different venues to keep it interesting.

THE BEST WAY TO TURN ON CAPRICORN

Capricorns are the most anal signs of the zodiac, so buttering them up will take a bit of effort. Believe it or not, their erotic area is the
knees! Lightly stroke their legs, paying close attention to the knee region. Licking, kissing, and nibbling the area will get them squirming.

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Sagittarius Bedroom Habits

Posted by on March 15, 2008 No comments

SAGITTARIUS November 23 – December 22

  • Ruling Planet: JUPITER


God of money, luck and good times between the sheets. Sagos are playful, laid back and oh-so fun to party with. They are wild, and may be the BADDEST party people you ever meet! One thing to be wary of is that Sagos like to talk BULLSHIT! Don’t believe everything they tell you because they are kings at ‘talking it up’. Sagos probably make better friends than lovers, but if you happen to score a one-nighter with them, be prepared to do stuff you’ve NEVER done before! Sagos are spontaneous and adventurous and most have probably been caught doing it somewhere public. When they find the right lover, they will give it 100% as long as the commitment is returned.

FAVOURITE POSITION

They are up for anything. Quality AND Quantity.

BEST SEX TOY

Handwrite a sexual fantasy of yours and leave it on their pillow. You’ll be surprised at what happens next!

SAGITTARIAN MALE IN BED

Even if he’s fat, balding and middle aged, he can still pull the chicks. It’s his love and pursuit of happiness that draws the babes to him. Think “Austin Powers” baby, yeah! He is a wee bit selfish though, so be prepared for an “all about me” attitude in the sack. He LOVES doing it, and if you start holding out on him, he’s likely to get it somewhere else. He will either amaze his partner with his sexual expertise or be absolute trash in bed!

SAGITTARIAN FEMALE IN BED

The Sago woman is a handful! She changes her mind more often than she shaves her armpits, is blunt, oversensitive and takes offense at the strangest things. She’s adventurous in the bedroom and also has no problems cheating if her needs are not fulfilled. But can u handle her open-minded sexuality? She will hide her emotions from you, but don’t make the mistake of hiding yours from her. She’s looking for
someone she can trust 100%, but is quite hypocritical since she can be very untrustworthy herself.

THE BEST WAY TO TURN ON SAGITTARIUS

Hips and thighs are extremely sensual for a Sago, so concentrate on massaging and stroking that area and the place in between! Don’t be afraid to ask your Sago if you’re doing it right because they would LOVE to tell you! The best way to get them going is to grope their inner thigh in a public place!

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Scorpio Bedroom Habits

Posted by on March 15, 2008 No comments

SCORPIO October 24 – November 22

  • Ruling Planet: PLUTO


The Roman God of the dead, beginnings and endings. Which basically means that Scorpios add novel differences to any relationship. Scorpios are very possessive. They will tense up if you even LOOK at another hottie across the room. But they can be relied on to always be there for you if you need them. You may never really know what your Scorpio is thinking though, because to them, Knowledge is power and they are very good at putting on a straight face to cover up any emotion they are feeling. Scorpios love sex. The dirtier, the better. Get them excited by revealing your filthiest fantasy and offering to act it out.

FAVOURITE POSITION

Anything, as long as it involves dominating your ass.

BEST SEX TOY

Ben Wah Balls for the girls, and a Riding Crop for the boys

SCORPIO MALE IN BED

His sexuality is so strong, it will make you dizzy!! If you are lucky enough to be with a Scorpio boy, you will always be satisfied!! There’s a rumour that the Scorpio man is the most skilled in bed. It’s as true as a black man has a giant wang!!! Most are pretty good!! The only thing you don’t want to do is piss him off. Every little thing u do that he doesn’t like, he will file away in his little mental Rolodex. Piss him off one too many times, and he will wreak his revenge!!!

SCORPIO FEMALE IN BED

She may look like a quiet, shy girl, but in bed she is NOT! She is a wildly passionate woman, who is DYNAMO is the bedroom. Just don’t piss her off either, because she can more vengeful than a Scorpio man, and she has no problem causing a scene! Don’t talk about other women, or play hard to get, because she will get u back, and it’s a game of one-upmanship you will never win.

THE BEST WAY TO TURN ON SCORPIO

Since this is one of the horniest signs, it makes sense that their moan zone is between their legs! Then again, their big head (or their mind) is just as easy to turn on. Talking dirty and teasing your Scorpio will get them ready and randy in a flash!! Without getting too graphic, the magic words for today are RUB, RUB, RUB.

Libra Bedroom Habits

Posted by on March 15, 2008 No comments

LIBRA September 24 – October 23

  • Ruling Planet: VENUS


The planet in charge of beauty, love peace, and stirring sensuality. Libra is one of the sexiest signs in the zodiac, but if Libra can’t get what they want from one lover, they will opt for two! They are notorious for having double standards in that situation too. They’ll look you in the eye and say “never cheat on me, because I would never do it to you”, even when they have a hot night of passion planned with someone else! Librans are more turned on ‘giving’ than ‘receiving’. They have a big heart and are the least selfish sign of the Zodiac. Libras are not very open about their thoughts or fantasies. They’d rather say nothing than tell the truth and offend or embarrass you. In bed, it takes a while for them to be comfortable enough to tell you exactly what they want.

FAVE POSITION

As long as they are lying down, they’re happy!

BEST SEX TOY

K.Y. Jelly. I will say no more!

LIBRA MALE IN BED

The Libra man sees sex as an exciting adventure and he’d be very keen to do it in kinky places like a restaurant toilet! He likes being a bad boy if there’s a chance he might get caught. He’ll try out any fantasy you have, but whether or not you can keep a tight hold on his heart remains to be seen. However, he can be a bit of a pushover, and is perfect husband material, and he’d prefer his lover to take the lead. He is romantic and considerate but may suffer from Premature Ejaculation!

LIBRA FEMALE IN BED

The only thing that separates Libra men and women is what’s between their legs! Libra girl wants a strong man who understands that she needs her individuality and freedom. She is turned off by burping, farting, and bad breath. Good personal hygiene is crucial if you want to get to 2nd base. Librans are very good at lying to get their own way. When your Libra girl groans in bed, look into her eyes to make sure she’s not ‘faking it’.

THE BEST WAY TO TURN ON LIBRA

Libra’s Love Zone is their lower back and butt, so please, squeeze and pat your Libra’s butt whenever you get a chance. When you’re kissing, reach under his or her top and stroke the lower part of their back, starting in the middle and working your way down to their butt. Take your time and be gentle! To really drive your Libra wild? Have you ever heard of the term ‘Rimming’??? Does it surprise you that a high percentage of Libras are gay?

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