Monthly Archives: December 2007

Why you should dump your girlfriend this December

Posted by on December 18, 2007 No comments

As a Dating Coach and blogger I keep up with what other dating experts are saying. One of my favourites is a guy called Evan Marc Katz, who wrote two books: I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book and Why You’re Still Single. Anyway he makes a very good argument why December is in fact a good time to start new relationships because people are not in work mode. And so even though all he says is true I’m going to go with an opposing view from my favourite radio jock, Tom Leykis: DTB for the holidays.

According to Tom women want to have a guy around during major holidays like Christmas, New Year, Valentine’s Day or birthdays. Even if you’ve been with a booty call for a while this is the time to dump her and move on. He says further, “You’ll save yourself the money that would have been spent buying her a present, and there’s a lot of lonely chicks out there who want to be with somebody–anybody. Women want to feel feel validated on the holidays, so they go out on a hunt to find the sucker to buy her presents. Your appeal will be much higher as a man during these times. Sticking around with a girl during these times plants long-term thoughts in her head. You don’t want that for a booty call.”

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Be aware of before moving in together

Posted by on December 17, 2007 No comments

Here is some comments from an email interview with Ramon Thomas that was published in Move! magazine.

1. Discuss Money Matters

Single and living together

One of the most common mistakes people make in merging their lives is not to discuss money. And one of the biggest causes of break-ups and divorces in general is disagreements about money. Part of this discussion should include what each will do. So for example if one is doing the cooking, the other could do the dishes and vice-verse. Write out a clear agreement on how money will be spent and how you will split your responsibilities around the house.

2. Have a Backup Plan

Nothing last forever. So be prepared for the reality of things not working out. Think ahead and plan ahead. Make sure you do not cut ties with friends and family now that you are moving in together because they will be part of your backup plan when you need them. You do not want to alienate them. Have some savings put away or have a contingency plan so you can act quickly.

The biggest thing to remember is to be pragmatic about moving in together. Love can be blind but don’t let yourself get the short end of the stick.

Also checkout It may be a mistake to live together before getting married.

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7 Steps on How to get over Your ex-Girlfriend

Posted by on December 9, 2007 2 comments

I received this question via my Facebook profile recently:

I thought I was over her… but thoughts of her come back to haunt me…and it seems it affects me when I try and get something new going with other women… and I’m there but I’m not there… you know what I mean?

What would be a sure fire hit of getting over the ex?

My response: You believe the lie most people do – that you are empty or incomplete without being in a relationship. There is no short answer to this question but here’s some immediate steps to take immediately after a break-up with your girlfriend:

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