Obviously, physical appearance is important, especially on the dating scene. But, it dawned on me after the first few episodes of Show Me the Mommy? that we forget the real reason that physical appearance is important. The outer package tells us about the inner person.
Looking Good
On a speed date, physical appearance acts as shorthand to your personality. People are more drawn to you if you look like you take care of yourself. The reasoning is that you treat others the way you treat yourself. So make sure, especially, that your nails and hair are clean, and that you smell good.
The Scent of Love?
Deodorant and perfume are perfect examples of how to reveal the inner you. It is said that a perfume you cannot smell is perfect for you because it blends into, and thus compliments, your natural body odour. By choosing a certain perfume, you are choosing a certain identity. A sweet scent suggests innocence, while a more musky scent suggests a stronger personality.
Fashion Right
Dress is perhaps the most important indicator of your personality. The way you dress alerts your date to superficial things like social status. A lawyer dresses differently to a student. Dress is highly sensitive to fashion. That doesn’t mean becoming a fashion slave, but remember that your date’s taste is probably steered by what parades through the pages of fashion magazines.
Dress can also tell more personal things about you. The key is in the detail. An unusual belt may suggest a more unusual personality. Before the speed dating evening, choose at least one item of clothing or jewelery with personal meaning. You’ll feel special wearing the item, and that will come across in your behaviour.
Ultimately, wear something that looks smart, but that you feel comfortable in. The more comfortable you feel, the more comfortable you will look. Speed dating events can be fairly nerve-wracking. When you are nervous, it is not that easy to ‘be yourself’. Dressing in a way that represents your personality, cuts out half the work.
Remember that Smile
When you are nervous, it is all too easy to forget the most important detail. But don’t forget to smile. Smiling triggers the release of hormones that make you feel happy. That doesn’t include the mutant, strained smile that is born out of stressful situations, but a genuine smile.
Be Real
Speed dating is all about meeting people we feel a connection with, and that we feel comfortable with. It is all too easy to lie and pretend to be what you feel your date may be looking for. But, that also means you might get stuck on a longer date with someone you have nothing in common with. Let your appearance tell the story, and don’t be afraid to embrace the cliche be yourself.
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